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THROUGH A RAPIST'S EYES
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what
they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid
or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely
to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not
common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for
women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them
carry scissors around to cut clothings.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through
their purse or doing other activities while walking
because they are off guard and can be easily over-powered.
4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is
in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery
store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages.
Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a
woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't
have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5
year sentence, but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged
because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that
going after you isn'tworth it because will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,
or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in
their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get
really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So,the idea
is to convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what
time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is so cold
out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and
could identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of
you and yell, "Stop or stay back!." Most of the rapists this
man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed
that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking
for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of
it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling, "I HAVE
PEPPER SPRAY" and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you
can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from
behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the
elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman
in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on
a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke
through the skin and tore out muscle strands.
The guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in places as
hard as you can stand it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from
a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a
guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll
anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing
these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who
will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's
out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing
down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles
cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see
any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You
may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if
the guy really was trouble.
PLEASE READ THEN FORWARD THIS TO ANY WOMAN YOU KNOW, IT'S SIMPLE
STUFF THAT COULD SAVE HER LIFE .
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